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How do you know if you’re gay?
This is a question that's not easily answered. Human sexuality is a complex and fascinating phenomena that cannot be broken down into a simple black-or-white answer. Human sexuality is also very fluid and can change from person-to-person throughout a lifetime. However, there are some indications that may help you determine if you identify as gay.
The research of Dr Alred Kinsey in the 1960's suggested that up to 10% of the population is homosexual. However, the findings are not as absolute, and Kinsey himself avoided and disapproved of using terms like homosexual or heterosexual to describe individuals, asserting that sexuality is prone to change over time, and that sexual behavior can be understood both as physical contact as well as purely psychological phenomena (desire, sexual attraction, fantasy).
If you're wondering if you are gay, here are some of the signals to be on the lookout for:
The important thing to remember is there are many variations of sexuality and some people even change their attraction/sexuality throughout their lifetime. This phenomena tends to be more prevalent in women than men.
Tips for coming out
Professionals state that around 1/3 of gay teens will eventually attempt suicide, that’s 4 times the median of heterosexual teens. A stronger sense of self and maturity could make it simpler to come out of the closet as an adult, yet how it will go depends on religious tolerances and beliefs already created amongst friends and family. Here are a few tips to make your coming out gay slightly easier:
If you're struggling with your sexuality or coming out, then you may benefit from the help of a trained counsellor or psychologist to get support for this challenging process. Australia Counselling has counsellors and psychologists in Perth, Adelaide, Melbourne, Sydney, Canberra, Brisbane and country areas of Australia. Search under Gay and Lesbian Counselling for a counsellor that works with sexuality and gay and lesbian persons in a location near you.
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